Take a moment to think about the last time you had an opinion about someone or allowed the opinion of someone, affect your mood or your actions?
However, when those opinions have a negative impact on your day, your actions, and your life, it’s time to take back control. Yes, that right, every single person has the tools and ability to do so. In no time and with a little self-awareness, self-compassion, and willpower, you will be bypassing the "Opinions Creek" and finally living who you were truly destined to be.
So, let’s get started. In no specific order, try implementing the following to see remarked improvements to your self-esteem and self-worth.
1. Mind Your Own Business.
Now is the time to stop asking people what they think. Why does it matter? If you look within, you already have your own answer. It also means becoming aware of how you communicate your opinions to others.
2. You Know You.
It sounds so obvious but believe it or not, you know you better than anyone else. So who is best equipped to know what is best for you? The answer is you. Notice how I mention "you" often here. Give yourself permission to have constructive opinions about yourself. The key here is to be forgiving. If you sense something could be improved. Do it! If you like what you're doing, keep doing it. It's that simple.
3. Stop Over Analysing.
This is a biggy. How many times do you find yourself worrying unnecessarily about what someone thinks? Do you think that person is going about their day, worrying about how their opinion has affected you? Chances are, unlikely. So why are you giving them the power to control how you feel now?
Master the art of acknowledging an opinion and moving on. Remember, someone's opinion is usually based on their own self beliefs, life experiences and possible insecurities. So ask yourself, is their opinion based on facts? If not, accept it, release it, and move it on. It has no place in your thoughts or your life. Do not let it hold you back!
4. You Win Some, You Lose Some.
Not everyone is going to like you, or like what you do, and you have no control over this. Take a moment for that to digest. There are over 7 billion people on this planet. Not everyone will hold the same values you do and not everyone will like you, and that's ok.
Stop wasting your energy on trying to change this. Instead focus your energy on connecting with likeminded people who you resonate with. They will encourage you and lift your spirits, not belittle who you are.
5. Resilience.
Ok let’s be honest. Opinions suck. That horrible feeling in the pit of your stomach when someone says or thinks badly of you. We all want to be liked. That's human nature. Negative opinions can knock your confidence and question your self-belief.
In this moment it's ok to feel deflated, sad, or angry. Take some time to self-reflect on why this has had such a negative impact on you. Maybe it reminds you of an experience which needs time to heal? Maybe you are just having a bad day?
Whatever it is, acknowledge it and take the necessary actions to make yourself feel better, but do not let this affect you long term. As soon as you can, bounce back. Do not let this hold you back. Build your resilience.
6. Be Selective.
Being true to yourself and freeing yourself of negative opinions is a great feeling. You have head space to evolve. However as mentioned previously, it is important to receive feedback from valued sources who you trust and who have your best interests at heart. Pick these people wisely. Notice how I used the word "feedback". Feedback can be constructive, enabling you to make improvements in your life. This group of people would never stop you from being you and doing what you love.
7. Worst Case Scenario.
Ask yourself. Are you really willing to not try something new or take a risk based on what you think someone else may say or think? How many opportunities have you already missed out on because you were too scared by the opinions others? What is the worst that could happen? Make a promise to yourself to yes in the face of fear. Stop allowing others to control your life. Do not live a life of "what if". Do not miss any more opportunities. Get out there and start living
your life for you and your future self. Take the first step! Go on, I believe in you!
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